With 5 kids we have had our share of bed time struggles. When the big kids were older it was fairly simple. For the most part they went to bed easily on their own after a few books and snuggles after being tucked in for the night. Rare were the nights when they "needed a drink," had to potty or were scared of something in the dark. Bed time was fairly simple. I never really understood bed time struggles until Addysen came along.
From the time she was a little itty bitty baby, we had bed time struggles. We could not put her to bed the same way two nights in a row. What worked last night, didn't work tonight and most nights left us pulling at our hair in exhaustion. Some nights we would finally break down at 1am and go for a car drive. Usually once around the block and she was out like a light. We always drove just a little bit more to make sure she stayed asleep.

As she grew older the only thing that worked was the dreaded Cry It Out (CIO). I wasn't one of those parents until she came along. She needed the confinement of her crib, but also needed to know that everyone else was sleeping. She was always afraid of missing something. If we sat next to her crib she would fidget for hours on end until we finally would just leave the room. One night I sat for over 3 hours, finally decided that was enough and went to bed myself. She fussed in her crib for less than 5 minutes and was out. Cold. It was that moment that I realized that she just needed that confined space to wind down and go to sleep.
This method worked great for about 6 months. After that it was another challenge we had to over come. Addysen had figured out how to climb out of her crib. The first night it happened I figured it had to be a fluke. She had to have stepped on something to gain leverage to get out. The next day at nap time when it happened again, I decided to sit in there and figure out how she was doing it. Sure enough she was climbing her way out with nothing else in her bed.
Confinement was no longer an option. Don't think I didn't try though. The thought of trying to confine a 21 month old while also trying to nurse and get the 6 week old to sleep scared the crap out of me. I'm alone all day. I NEED that peace and quiet nap time brings. We tried the playpen. Nope. She climbed out easily. So I had a friend offer me her playpen that sat on the ground and it was what she used when her kids started climbing out of the crib. It worked wonders for her. Not for us. Addysen climbed in and back out again in 30 seconds flat while I watched in the living room.

Our next step was converting her bed to a toddler bed.This was a joke to her. She could climb out easily and run around her room! We tried sitting next to her at nap time and bed time. The only thing that worked to get her to sleep was laying down IN her bed with her. Soon we realized this option wasn't going to work as well because we couldn't sleep in there with her and every time we went to get out, she would wake up.

On to a big girl bed was our next step. So one night I took all evening and rearranged the girls rooms to incorporate 3 regular beds. We had a set of bunk beds for the big girls, but I realized soon enough that Addysen would try climbing in the top bunk and it was a safety issue. So we took the bunk beds apart, and brought up the guest bed out of the basement. MacKenzie was excited to get a new BIG bed and Addysen was quite thrilled with her new bed as well. The only problem. She won't stay in it. So we are back at the bedtime battle again.
Thankfully we have been able to lay next to her at nap time and she will usually go down fairly quickly if she is tired. Though there are those days when she just won't lay down for nothing and it seems as if a car ride will be our only option. There are also those days when I fall asleep before she does and I end up getting that much needed nap I didn't really know I needed.

Bedtime is still a struggle. Some nights we fight back and forth to get her to sleep. There isn't a magic solution to our bed time struggles. Some night she ends up in bed with one of the girls and those are the smoother nights. We just transfer her back to her own bed when we go to bed. Other nights we end up putting her in our bed to fall asleep and then one of us transfers her when we come up to bed. If you have any suggestions for helping to keep her in bed I would LOVE to hear them!!